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    30th of May '14 @ 9:23 PM


Hello debate chat.

So I'm interested to read your opinions on this subject. Do you think it's right for a parent to slap their children (weather minor or not) across the face? If so, at what age should the person get to for that to be an acceptable form of discipline or way of showing anger?

My honest opinion is I don't think it's right at any age. The thought of a parent inflicting any kind of pain on their son or daughter at any age just doesn't sit well with me.

So what do you guys think?

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    1st of Jun '14 @ 5:31 PM


i think that if the child is so out of control the parent feels there is nothing left to do but slap them in the face they're not fit for raising a child.
i get the frustration parents feel with their children and that they'd want to give them a spanking but actually hitting a child in the face is never acceptable, no matter what age. children are supposed to learn from their parents and feel safe with them.



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    1st of Jun '14 @ 5:53 PM


I couldn't agree more, Jaeger. I see it happen in soap operas and on tv all the time and it's sickening.

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    5th of Jun '14 @ 12:31 PM


I totally agree with jaeger. Slapping is a form of violence and is unacceptable. My parents used to slap us really hard in the face or behind our heads when me and my sisters were little and it was a huge trauma. I was so scared of them, I couldn't feel safe when they were around before several years passed. Educating your children with peace and trust is possible and it's the way it should be. Violence is a lack of respect and you have to respect your children - no matter what age, no matter how firmly you educate them - if you want them to do so.

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    5th of Jun '14 @ 1:56 PM


I don't think you should slap a kid in the face, but spankings, I agree with. They NEED to know where the line is drawn. Kids these days are wild because parents are unable to discipline them. Spanking a kid for any little thing is absurd of course, but there is a line to draw where they need it. If a kid knows they're not going to get punished, then they have no reason to stop being bad. Time outs, sending them to their rooms, none of that is effective on some kids. I for one took "go to your room" as a favor, because I enjoyed being alone. That wasn't a punishment. My parents did all of the "normal" punishment routines, and usually, they worked, but sometimes I just wouldn't get it so stronger measures needed to be taken.

Now, a spanking? That was a punishment. That was a last straw you didn't learn from the first few times now you have to learn a real lesson punishment. To be fair, the actual spanking was always minor, it didn't really hurt. It was the psychological windup that was always most effective. The buildup to what was going to happen. The knowing you messed up big time. The knowing why this is coming. As a kid, you always made yourself believe it was going to hurt ten times more than it ever actually did.

I was never unfairly spanked, I always knew exactly what I did to bring myself to this point. And afterwards, they always sat with me and explained what I could do to avoid such a thing next time. They didn't want to do it, and when they did, they wanted me to learn that rules are for a reason, and consequences for bad behavior exist.

Did I ever fear my parents because of it? Never. I knew I pushed it too far, and I paid for it. I was taught consequences, and I think children severely lack that these days.

A swat on the butt, back, hand I think is fine. But I agree, the face is more mentally damaging and should be avoided. Anything that can leave a mark or a bruise is too extreme.



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    5th of Jun '14 @ 10:24 PM


Posted by Tilas


I don't think you should slap a kid in the face, but spankings, I agree with. They NEED to know where the line is drawn. Kids these days are wild because parents are unable to discipline them.


I completely agree with this. When I was little my mom told me she would spank me for acting up in the store, and I can't even tell you how scared I was and I pledged to never, ever do it again.




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    8th of Jun '14 @ 3:59 AM


I don't have any kids (yet ;p), so who knows what kind of a mother I will be, but I hope that I don't resort to spanking. I do believe it can be damaging for the child and I believe time outs can be effective if the parents stick with it. I don't think children should be scared of their parents.

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    20th of Jun '14 @ 1:15 PM


I was hit a lot as a child, so I don't think it's ok at ANY age. Stop Child Abuse!

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    21st of Jul '14 @ 7:38 PM


I don't think that a parent should slap there kids…i consider that as a slip for prison i mean if you hit a child than that would really heart them i mean that has happened to me. i would say they should only do it if they have told that child at least 3-4 times

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    28th of Jul '14 @ 12:48 PM


I was slapped and spanked for bad behavior and you don't see me going around acting a fool.
To slap or spank is NOT child abuse!!! Beating a child is child abuse.
Laws have changed to protect children from abuse and I agree with that......

Laws have made it difficult to set proper punishment these days and sadly to say you see kids acting up horribly smile_sad.gif

I am 150% AGAINST child abuse but I believe children to seed a good slap or spanking these days.




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    31st of Jul '14 @ 1:24 PM


I am 100% behind spanking. I whole heartedly agree with @Tilas and @AaminaAbbas 's posts.

When I was a child, I was spanked, I was threatened with spanking, and I was scared when my mother said "Do you want to go outside?" with that look in her eyes.
But you know, I ALWAYS deserved it. I pushed the limits, my mom would set me back in line. I was never afraid of my mother unless I was doing something wrong and knew it. Time outs were never effective with me. Never. Spankings? You better believe it.

I am an adult in the mid 20's now and I turned out to be a great citizen. My mom and I are very close, and I am a very responsible and respectful working adult.

Kids these days are not disciplined. Instead they are considered "misunderstood children" and they are babied. Um no, they just need someone to put them in line. They are not fully mature in their bodies or their minds. Help shape them properly and not give into them.

As for slapping and child abuse? Never ok.



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    8th of Aug '14 @ 3:11 PM


Where is the line between slapping and child abuse then?

I think it stops being effective when it happens regularly and over small things.

(Note that I'm still very much against slapping children, I just asked for argument's sake)

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    24th of Aug '14 @ 3:02 AM


Any sort of physical punishment is not okay. There are other ways to discipline your kids. It just seems effective because it is so much worse than any of punishment and it can scare kids into doing the right thing. You can effectively punish in other ways.




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    25th of Aug '14 @ 3:47 AM


spanking is just as humiliating and traumatic as being slapped across the face imo. intimidation and physical punishment should not be a parenting tactic if you expect respect from your children



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    25th of Aug '14 @ 9:21 PM


If they go around slapping other people in the face for no good reason, then I think a parent should be allowed to show them how hurtful it is. My mom bit me once before because I constantly bit my sister. smile_angel.gif Taught me a lesson and showed me it sucked, haha.

But if it's as punishment for something like.. talking back, then no.



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    6th of Jan '15 @ 12:21 PM


Posted by Cara


My mom bit me once before because I constantly bit my sister. smile_angel.gif Taught me a lesson and showed me it sucked, haha.


^I had my daughter doctor to actually tell me to actually do that to my daughter when she was about year and half since she kept biting people. Of course not to bite too hard were it breaks the skin and bleed, but hard enough for her to learn that biting is bad. It worked. Hasn't bitten any one ever since. (She's 4 now if anyone is wondering)

I believe that children need to be punished for the things they do wrong. Of course with whatever doing wrong should come with different punishment not the same punishment over and over again since it won't work. But, slapping them in the face is not an okay thing to do either. My boyfriend, slapped our daughter in the face once, and I was pissed about it and threaten him that I was going to leave him if he did it again, and have his sister kick his butt, and he hasn't ever since because he knows that if he did it again, his sister will come over and whoop his butt for smacking her across the face.

I've had talks about the difference between punishing the child and child abuse, and most people I've talked about this topic would usually say, if it doesn't leave a mark it's not abuse.

Each age group should come with different punishment as well, parents shouldn't be using the same punishment either since the child would soon learn whats coming for them when its time to be punished when they're acting up and it wont work on them anymore. I've actually had strangers come up to me out in public praising how well my daughter behaves out in public than most children her age since she was a year and half, because my child knows that if she acts up in public, she will get punished for it whether its out in the public eye or at home.




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    24th of May '15 @ 1:51 PM


I think that slapping ANYONE across the face is uncalled for. If you really want to punish a child with pain, at least spank them.

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    13th of Nov '15 @ 11:13 AM


I don't think it's right for any age!
I feel that the appropriate punishment for kids should never be a strike from the parent's hand. A cane, grounding, confiscation is fine but I just feel that if there is direct hits on the child, it doesn't feel right.

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    13th of Nov '15 @ 11:40 PM


Spanking is fine. Slapping them or abusing them? That's pretty harsh.

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    9th of Dec '15 @ 4:43 PM


I am 150% AGAINST child abuse but I believe children to seed a good slap or spanking these days.



@AaminaAbbas I wholeheartedly agree with what you've said.

With that being said, if a child is so out of control and you've taken every necessary step to discipline yet they still won't listen or respect you, a nice swat on the butt won't do anyone harm. Spanking is a last resort kind of thing and should never be done on a regular basis IMO. If all else fails... boot camp it is.
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    9th of Dec '15 @ 9:43 PM


@Nikon

I am so soft hearted. I cry even if I raise my voice and a child cries. I remember when @someonesusie was a baby and she colored the TV with a marker. I yelled at her and here it is 18 years later and my heart still breaks when I see that moment smile_grin.gifsmile_grin.gifsmile_grin.gif LOL



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    9th of Dec '15 @ 9:48 PM


@AaminaAbbas I can imagine her doing that! smile_laugh.gifsmile_laugh.gifsmile_laugh.gif Sooo cute! smile_heart.gif



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    9th of Dec '15 @ 9:57 PM


@AaminaAbbas
I was a little rebel. Even as a small child! smile_devil.gifsmile_devil.gifsmile_devil.gif
I was being creative... Ya'll were such downers, maaan.
I was just trying to make your worlds more colorful.
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lol it was so funny. She used to babysit me and she would threaten punishment... Id tell her she wasnt gonna really punish me anyways so it did not matter. smile_laugh.gifsmile_laugh.gifsmile_laugh.gif



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    9th of Dec '15 @ 11:02 PM


@Nikon
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It's the gentle heart smile_heart.gifsmile_grin.gifsmile_grin.gifsmile_grin.gif

Susie as super cute, she still is smile_happy.gif



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    10th of Jul '16 @ 3:32 PM


Oh, gee. I think violence of any sort is a BIG no no. smile_no.gifsmile_heart.gif



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